Alright I promised and did not deliver a series on marriage. So let it begin.
Part Uno
First a little bit about me. I have been married for almost seventeen years--in August I will have been. The irony is that sometimes it seems both longer, and quite a bit shorter.
Why ironic?
Well I think people tend to view bad times as taking foooorrrreeevvvverr, and good times as flying by. My marriage has been a little bit of both. Well actually heaps of both.
My wife and I are closer now than we have ever been, and I would say that I am still as "in love" with her as I was early on in our relationship. The problem is that back then I was a self satisfied punk who probably had no idea what real love was anyway, so what ever love I felt is probably not a good gauge for the love I feel now.
So let me rephrase that.
I love my wife more now that I ever have. It is a deeper love matured like a fine wine that is now capable of far more flavor and delight than it was when it was young.
But it has not been easy to get there, and to be honest, its still not easy.
Marriage, and indeed any relationship takes work. But it is a labor of love that like a farmer tending his fields yields a wonderful harvest.
Not that I am comparing women to fruits or vegetables--though my wife's name does mean fertile valley, but you get the idea.
In this series, I want to deviate a little from the typical "man's role as husband" and "woman's role as wife" narrative that often permeates Christian marriage advice, and focus instead on three major forms of what I like to call relationship idolatry and how they impact our most intimate and personal human relationship--our marriage.
What are those forms of idolatry?
They are Power, Pleasure and Praise.
During the next post I will unpack what they are exactly, and how they relate to marriage.
It has begun.
Part Uno
First a little bit about me. I have been married for almost seventeen years--in August I will have been. The irony is that sometimes it seems both longer, and quite a bit shorter.
Why ironic?
Well I think people tend to view bad times as taking foooorrrreeevvvverr, and good times as flying by. My marriage has been a little bit of both. Well actually heaps of both.
My wife and I are closer now than we have ever been, and I would say that I am still as "in love" with her as I was early on in our relationship. The problem is that back then I was a self satisfied punk who probably had no idea what real love was anyway, so what ever love I felt is probably not a good gauge for the love I feel now.
So let me rephrase that.
I love my wife more now that I ever have. It is a deeper love matured like a fine wine that is now capable of far more flavor and delight than it was when it was young.
But it has not been easy to get there, and to be honest, its still not easy.
Marriage, and indeed any relationship takes work. But it is a labor of love that like a farmer tending his fields yields a wonderful harvest.
Not that I am comparing women to fruits or vegetables--though my wife's name does mean fertile valley, but you get the idea.
In this series, I want to deviate a little from the typical "man's role as husband" and "woman's role as wife" narrative that often permeates Christian marriage advice, and focus instead on three major forms of what I like to call relationship idolatry and how they impact our most intimate and personal human relationship--our marriage.
What are those forms of idolatry?
They are Power, Pleasure and Praise.
During the next post I will unpack what they are exactly, and how they relate to marriage.
It has begun.
1 comment:
will we be discussing the fall?
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